Keeper of the Flame: How Pink Mentor Network Got an Anthem

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“The two most important days in your life are

the day you are born and the day you find out why.”   
-Mark Twain
 

For me, there are really three important dates:


Born: April 9, 1979
Learned Why:  February 18, 2017
Started LIVING Why:  May 30, 2018

16 hours after I was “let go”, I started hustling & connecting. 

I was not going to be a victim.  I was going to register for a random events, make myself presentable, and start living my dream. 

(Even if that dream wasn’t crystal clear yet.)

I did.

And it was just what & who I needed. 

I attended a female entrepreneurs’ coffee.  These women inspired me with their passions, comforted my with their hospitality, and motivated me with their accomplishments.  

But on the car ride home…I heard the words that changed my life.

Miranda Lambert’s “Keeper of the Flame” came on the radio.  I’m sure I had heard  to it before. But today, in that moment of complete vulnerability, I finally listened it.

I’m walking in their footsteps
I’m singing their old songs
Somebody blazed this trail
I’m treadin’ on

“Blazed this trail I’m treading on” was the phrase that caught my attention.

I was hosting a Trailblazer’s Breakfast for 30 women in a few days. 

My mind was already imagining what type of impact it could make.  To celebrate, honor, and learn from a 16-year female partnership that transformed an industry, gave thousands work & paychecks. 

And then, to humbly sit in the space created by their dreams & hard work, listen to their experiences, learn from their greatness. 

And lil’ old me was privileged enough to invite & share this opportunity some of the most EXTRAORDINARY women in Charlotte.

We were treading on the trail they blazed… raceBecause they generously & graciously invited us to come along.  

I’m bent, but I’m not broken
I’m stronger than I feel
I’m made of flesh and bone
Not made of steel

The truth in that verse brought tears to my eyes.

I had lost my job.  I did feel broken.  But in my heart, I knew it wasn’t a fracture.

I am stronger than that. 

I’m the keeper of the flame
The teller of the story
Keeper of the flame
For the ones that came before me
For the little pilot lights waiting to ignite
Like fireflies in the rain
Keeper of the flame

As I listened to the chorus, I could feel the Pink Mentor Network mission race through my blood— everything that I am, everything that I know, everything that is true to my being.  

The emotion was so overwhelming I had to pull over.

I believe that every woman has a story we can learn from.  The power of the Pink Mentor Network has been giving her a stage, microphone, and audience.  

I believe in the power of female mentorship. I believe that women yearn for this relationship–someone to say, “You are not alone. I’ve been there too.  And here’s what I learned.”

The Pink Mentor Network honors those women, tells their stories igniting those who listen to them.  The Pink Mentor Network is the “Keeper of the Flame”.

I’ve been burned out to ashes
Waiting for a wind
To carry me and start a fire again
Sometimes I’m just a flicker
A candle in your eye
But I swear to God
I’ll never let it die

For 18 months, I leapt out of bed at 4AM because I felt so strongly about this mission that I had to work on it a few hours before “going to work.”

…I do swear to God I’ll never let it die.

When I’m drowning
When I’m fighting
When I’m screaming
When I’m hiding
When I’m losing
When I’m winning…

Drowning, Fighting, Screaming, Hiding, Losing, Winning — the Pink Mentor Network has introduced me to women all of these scenarios.  

For me, “hiding” resonates the most.  Over the last 18 months, I built this passion project that kept me energized and fueled. 

When I look at the event photos, I have never seen myself happier. 

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It is me at my best. Me at my strongest. Me at my most confident. 

It is my belief system.  It has introduced me to women who changed my life—made me better.  

It is “ME“.  It is why I was put on this Earth.

And yet, I hid. 

… I go back to
The beginning

Those six words trigger two sentiments for me:  The beginning of Pink Mentor Network, but also my own beginning.  

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Growing up in Quinter, Kansas.  Being raised by two small town, high school sweethearts.  Never having a lot, but always having enough.  Being the daughter of a man who worked 65+ hours a week for his family, and the woman whose work was her family.  And carrying the values they instilled in me — generosity, dependability, & humility.  

The beginning of my beginning began there. 

It’s who I am at the core…because that’s how I was raised.

Keeper of the flame
The teller of the story
Keeper of the flame
I’m not doing it for the glory
But for those little pilot lights waiting to ignite
Like fireflies in the rain
Keeper of the flame
I’m the keeper of the flame
Ooh, ooh
I’m the keeper of the flame
Ooh, ooh

Pink Mentor Network “Gives Her Career a Head Start” by collecting the experiences, successes, and lessons learned of accomplished women, and delivering them to women who desire professional inspiration, support, and encouragement.  Today, the network helps thousands of young women who are seeking career mentorship.  

I am not doing it for the glory.  I do it because it is who I am, and I can’t imagine doing anything else. 


To Natalie Hemby, Miranda Lambert, & Liz Rose: 

Thank you for writing what I needed to hear.  Thank you for writing an anthem to live by. 

We are going to disrupt and revolutionize how women seek and receive female mentorship.  Not because it’s a mission statement, but because we are “The Keepers of the Flame.”

When “Taking a Leap” Feels Like Being “Shoved Off a Cliff”

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I lost my job last week.

(As I type it, I still can’t believe it.)

I WAS FIRED?!?!?

ME?!… who has been working since 4th grade!
ME!?… who was awarded a “STACY CASSIO EMPLOYEE OF THE YEAR – AWARD OF EXCELLENCE” at her first full-time job.  (Seriously…they named a freaking award after me!)
ME!?…whose passion project is to help women THROUGH this exact situation.

How could this happen to ME?!?!

I remember once being asked, “If you didn’t have to get up and go to work tomorrow, what would you do?”

I couldn’t answer.

Work is my whole identity—no kids, just work.  Work is the legacy I want to leave others. Work is my contribution to this world. Work has been instilled in me since birth. I come from a long line of hard-working Kansas farmers—we work.   Work gives me purpose.  Work gives me meaning.

I am my job.  And I lost it last week.



What I understand now—10 days later, 12 networking events, nearly 60 new contacts, dozens of calls/tests/emails, 4 completely-read books, tons of yoga, meditation & journaling later is…

I AM NOT THAT JOB.  I AM NOT ANY JOB.

Pink Mentor Network was started through my own desire to find professional mentorship 18 months ago.  Since then, it has grown to almost 3,000 women.  It astounds me when I think of it.  (THAT’S 3 TIMES THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE IN MY HOMETOWN!!)

I believe in the mission more today than ever before.

Women want—no, WE NEED— to learn from the experiences of women who have achieved, failed, and overcome.  Conversely, the most professionally accomplished women want to share the lessons they’ve painfully learned.

I declared “2018: The Year She Leapt” because I wanted to help women achieve their dreams by providing introductions, resources, and inspiration that led them there.

Perhaps in my heart, I wanted it for me too.

However, I did not realize a “leap” would feel more like a “shove off a cliff”!  Or that, the network I created—the EXTRAORDINARY folks I’ve met—would be there to not only lessen the blow, but also life me up.

Turns out the answer to “What would you do if you didn’t wake up and go to work?” is work harder than ever.  Work on the DREAM.  Work on the WOMAN.  Work on the PLAN.

Do WORK that matters. Do WORK that’s caring, thoughtful, and generous—and all the things I want to be. Do WORK that makes a difference.

… Big things are coming!  Pink Mentor Network just hired a CEO.

Immensely Humbled & Incredibly Grateful,

Stacy Cassio
Founder & CEO

(This piece was featured in the Pink Mentor Network’s newsletter.  The entire newsletter is available here. )

Need to Overcome Self-Doubt? Try These Two Simple Techniques.

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Got any doubts about where you are headed?

Me too.  ALL THE TIME.

Jameson Frank said, “Our greatest battles are that with our own minds.”  

(Don’t ask me who Jameson Frank is.  I tried to look him up to ensure I was not referencing a maniac.  I can’t find a lick about him other than this quote.  So we will roll with it. It’s a solid quote.)

So how do we… as smart, strong women!… overcome our internal critics?

Two Suggestions:

1.  WE OWN HOW FAR WE’VE ALREADY COME.

Stop.  Take a long, deep TGIF! breath in.

Now look around.  Look at the place you are NOW.  Your home, your family, your friends.  Your successes, your accomplishments, your GREATNESS.

DAMN, GIRL…You’ve come a long way!  Bask in the glory of all you’ve achieved. Soak it in. Think about all you’ve CONQUERED to get this far.

You’ve got this.  You’ve got the gumption, strength, courage to face whatever is next because you got HERE today.

2.  WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH WOMEN WHO BELIEVE IN US.

Each time my own gremlins creep in, I reach out to someone who I know has my back.  (And in the last 18 months, it’s been a PINK MENTOR NETWORK woman.)

Now, it’s a skill that hasn’t always came easily to me—you know, that ASKING FOR HELP.  Ugh.  It’s still a challenge sometimes.

But in my own times of self-doubt, I turn to women who I know have battled through their own.

I pull ENERGY from their journeys.  I gain GRIT from their lessons.  I collect FEARLESSNESS from their stories.

And I carry on.

I invite you to do the same.  Come to the next Mentor Dinner on “Overcoming Self-Doubt.” 

Fight for what you’ve yet to accomplish by celebrating where you are.

CELEBRATE. BATTLE. REPEAT.
Keep fighting for it.  It’ll be worth it.
Stacy


This piece was featured in the Pink Mentor Network’s June 2018 newsletter.  The entire newsletter is available here.

Guest Post: Finding Work After a Relocation

Lori Montero and I met at a Pink Mentor Network workshop called “Rethink Your Job Search”. Together, the group explored the hardships of job searches by sharing our unique passions, and creative spirits.

Lori explained that she enjoyed writing and had a knack for it.  She also shared the challenges of looking for work after relocation.  It was clear there was more to this story so I asked her to tell it, allowing Lori to practice her storytelling talents and enter her creative mind.

She took on the challenge like the fearless woman she is. But then again, that’s seems to be the way she approaches all life’s struggles.


 

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MIDDLE-AGED, RELOCATION, JOB SEARCH …
IT’S NO BED OF ROSES!

Submitted By:  Lori Montero on 5/11/18


The 144th Kentucky Derby is in the books. Won by the unraced 2 year-old Chestnut colt, Justify.  The victory is the 5th Derby win for trainer Bob Baffert, and the 2nd win for jockey Mike Smith.

While Derby attendees are throwing back mint juleps, others are celebrating Cinco de Mayo with margaritas, chips and salsa and queso. I, however, sit here lamenting the arduous process I’ve subjected myself to for the past 12 weeks … job hunting in a new city.

For the past year, I contemplated returning to the Charlotte area. I’d previously logged over 17 years living south of Charlotte, specifically in Waxhaw, where I raised my show dogs and campaigned a veteran smooth Collie to #11 (Hawkins’ system). Career advancement moved me to Maryland, family illness moved me to Florida, and lastly another career opportunity moved me to Texas. Reflecting on the past 3 years, my heart was not set on retiring or dying in Texas.

Thinking 6 months of savings and relying on a strong business acumen, solid experience and a passionate personality, the time came to pack it up and head home … North Carolina or bust!

Sending my RAV4 ahead on a flatbed, my household goods with a professional moving company, I hooked up a 6×10 Uhaul trailer to my ‘big blue bus’ (Nissan HD 3500 van), loaded the dogs and my cat and heading East, bound for a small lease home in Mooresville.

I had started my NC job search in mid-January and successfully landed an interview with a marketing company in Chapel Hill. The signs were positive an offer was eminent … let the packing commence! Notice given, movers scheduled, call received they were moving in a different direction and not filling the position at this time.

Devastated, but the show must go on.

I was committed to returning ‘home’ and continued the monotonous task of online job searching. Indeed, Glassdoor, Ladders, Monster, iHire … applications completed via taleo, workday, and individual employer website. Cover letter? No cover letter? Include job history for the past 30 years or just the last 10 which were industry-specific? Remove the dates from my educational experience in hopes to alleviate age discrimination. Load resumes on job boards, update LinkedIn profile, use keywords so I appear in searches, talk to a coach, obtain 2-3 recruiters to assist and network, network, network.

The nights I’ve fallen asleep with my laptop open or my smartphone hitting me in the face are too numerous to count.

My days are spent combing through the email alerts and notifications for jobs that may or may not match my skill set and logging an average of 2-3 AUTOMATED rejections a day. The bigger companies – Proctor & Gamble, Corning, Kellogg’s, Purina – have tedious processes … better yet, that’s how I console myself when there’s no response in 3-4 weeks.

How do those recruiters pre-screen? Where is my resume? Did I not submit a cover letter when I should have? Do cover letters even matter?  Because I’m not currently working does that move my resume directly to File 13?

What the…???? The struggle is real!

Fast forward to Week 10 of the job search and I’ve had one … yes, one, full-fledged professional panel-style interview. I elected to side-step the expected compensation question by offering ‘let’s determine that I’m the right fit for the position; I know a company of your reputation offers competitive compensation plans and I’m sure the offer will be fair.’ At this juncture, I’ve had 3 successful phone interviews and (what I want to believe is) a fabulous on-site interview with the management team. Knowing I’m one of 4-5 candidates is concerning.

Am I competing with ‘millennials’? Does another candidate have more experience with the computer programs utilized in the position? Does any one of the candidates present as well as me? Can any one else establish rapport with the key stakeholders as well as I can? Will they consider my knowledge, experience and like-ability when making their decision OR will it be based on the evaluation forms the team completed while conducting the ‘behavioral’ questions during the panel interview?

The timeframe for a decision is next week. By the time this one opportunity comes to a close, it will have been 12 weeks … 3 months … since relocating back East.

The balance in my bank account dwindles and I seriously look at treasured possessions that I may have to part with in order to survive. Family heirlooms, jewelry, furniture, and even a vehicle are on the list of items to be liquidated. 401(k)s will be cashed in as a last resort.

The employment marketplace is no bed of roses. It’s a process that is met with lack of respect, lack of communication, and internal conflict causing you to question not only your abilities, but also your self-confidence. It’s shameful the process for finding gainful employment for someone that is gifted and talented is fraught with lots of brick walls, but this too shall pass and I WILL SURVIVE!

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Lori Montero is a passionate and driven sales & marketing professional with experience in automotive, construction and real estate (has an active NC BIC real estate license).  She enjoys writing, her AKC registered Collies, and gourmet cooking. She’s an incredible catch for an employer or a single, eligible businessman.

 


 

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Even though Lori & I only recently met, she carried struggle familiar, reoccurring struggle.  One I’ve witnessed frequently in the last 18 month through the Pink Mentor Network.  One that women of all ages, races, backgrounds, and experience levels face. One that steals your sanity, savings, and self-confidence.

THE JOB SEARCH IS ONE OF THE MOST VULNERABLE TIMES IN A WOMAN’S LIFE.  

It’s a challenge for only the most creative, resourceful, persistent, and focused. And in my experience, Lori is an extremely qualified candidate.

Thank you, Lori, for honestly & generously sharing your experience with us.

Meet Brittany Danielle Scacchetti: Making Women Look & Feel Beautiful One Sitting at a Time!

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“Love yourself and put yourself first.

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take good care of yourself, always!!!!!”

— Brittany Danielle Scacchetti, Mom, Singer, & Esthetician

 

Some talents are easier to show than to describe.  Here is a sampling of Brittany Scacchetti’s.

This was the first time I met Brittany Scacchetti, the makeup artist in this video.

I was not feeling particularly glamorous, beautiful, empowered or confident.  In fact, I had just gotten that dreaded monthly visitor, and was feeling bloated, tired, and cranky. To make matters worse, I actually even had broken out. For the first time in years, stress had left me with a giant red reminder smack-dab in the middle of my forehead.

Seriously, this was not how I wanted to roll into on very first (and probably only) modeling gig.  Yet, here I was trying to fight through my physical insecurities.

But little did I know, I had met the secret weapon, Brittany Scacchetti.

Brittany Danielle Scacchetti is like the Tinkerbell of makeup application.  She flies in with her magical pixie dust, and empowers women one face at a time.  I know because she transformed me into a beautiful, confident, empowered woman on a day when I was feeling anything but!

I asked Brittany to share her journey and inspiration with us.  I also really wanted to feature a woman whose talents are one-part artist, one-part magician, and 100% a gift to the faces she touches.

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Brittany, I know between your newly developing career and family time that you have a tremendous amount on your plate.  Thank you for taking a few minutes to share your story with us.

I often think if only I found my passion younger, I would have lived a lifetime with it.  I feel like at 27, you have been blessed with that gift.  Tell us about it.

To start, I have 3 “professions” that have my heart. 

First, being a mother. This is the most important one to me. I always knew I wanted to be a mama first, this was my greatest legacy.

Second, I wanted to sing, it was and still is my special gift. While I don’t use this as often as I’d like to, it has made an impact on my life and opened many opportunities in my path.

Third and final, (I know get on with it, Girl!)…I wanted to be an esthetician. This realization came much later but hindsight, I always knew it was my calling. I was a salon baby, if you don’t know what that is, I spent a majority of my childhood in the salons that my mom worked at.

I was the only child to a single mother. She worked her tail off to provide for me and all of my needs. My mother was a nail technician, she struggled but she was persistent, I spent 18 years coming to a salon “home” with her every day until one day I decided it was where I needed to be as well.

My mom always had issues with acne, I wanted to make her and others feel beautiful. When I started out, I focused on waxing and chemical peels. (I had no intentions of doing makeup at that point). It wasn’t until after I had children that I really delved into makeup artistry.

I loved it. I still do, it made me feel better and helped me deal with postpartum depression. I love seeing what my hands can do for others, it’s healing, it gives hope. It’s not much but it’s my gift, one of many, I was so blessed that I got a second chance to do what I love!

Well, it’s obvious you have found “your gifts”.  I am still amazed by how you transformed me.  How did you get your start in this field?

When I was growing up I had authority issues, it was so hard for me to listen to anyone or follow directions. I loved people but I needed to be my own boss. Thankfully the beauty business allows you to do just that! I found my niché!!!

I went to a TINY school in Stanly County, North Carolina, which was perfect for me, I was diagnosed with ADHD in the first grade and was medicated since then. I had to have one-on-one attention with schooling. Fortunately, I did my research and found Stanly Community College, a small esthetics school located in a strip mall neighboring a gas station.

It sounds out there, I know, but I found my place and that’s what I needed! There are many ways and classes offered to further education after graduation. Another thing I love about my career choice, I’m always learning something new!

I love how passionate you are about your work.  Where does that come from, Brittany?

My mom was a nail technician for 23 years, I’d like to think that’s what sparked my dedication.

She is persistent, she is strong, she taught me everything I know and I appreciate that more than she will ever know. She is my inspiration and that guided me to my career choice, taught me how to treat people and more importantly to love them, each and every one!

I love everything about my career and business, I’m fortunate to say the least. I’m extremely passionate about my work, I’m blessed and I count my blessings accordingly, I’m thankful and lucky that I knew my path as early as I did! 

That joy and innate purpose definitely comes across.  You are really extremely talented at what you do, Brittany.  Your mother must be very proud.  

What advice do you have for women searching for this type of passion?

Work hard, devote yourself to what you know and love and don’t waver.

If you feel something is right in your heart, don’t ignore that feeling. People will notice hard work and dedication, and if you aren’t proving yourself to them, prove yourself to yourself!

My Mawmaw always taught me to be the little engine that could, “I think I can, I think I can” to “I knew I could, I knew I could”, and my Pawpaw always taught me that not everything will go your way, you’ve got to just move past it or in his words “sometimes you just gotta eat a lotta crow”.

Every move you make is an experience …good or bad, but try hard and make the most of what you’ve got! 

Finally, share an instant source of inspiration, Brittany.

Honestly, Loretta Lynn. She came from nothing she made a life for herself just my speaking up and using her incredible voice. She overcame a music industry ran by men and still made her way to the top.

Women like her, Dolly Parton, Patsy Cline, have made a path for career women. They were able to vocalize their stories, to me that makes them all the more powerful. It’s not a book expert or song, but it inspires me to be more and it gives hope that even if you’ve come from nothing you can go all the way to the top! 

I love it, Brittany.  And I loved meeting you, Brittany!!  Thank you again.

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Brittany’s talents are always on display at Mnemosyne Studio.  She has also agreed to offer them at a discounted rate at our Headshot Refresh Day.  Join me, Brittany, and photographers Christy Miller, and Ray Evans on Saturday, March 31st for this very special event.  Event registration and details are here!

For more information on how to book or contact Brittany, check out her Facebook page.

Don’t Hit Snooze on Your Dreams!

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My alarm clock goes off at 4:17am every morning. I wake up early to work on the DREAM before I go to the JOB. It’s been the same routine for 16 months.

Most mornings I wake up before it goes off. Some mornings I want to hit snooze. On those mornings, I think STACY CASSIO, DO NOT HIT SNOOZE ON THE DREAM.

Folks, don’t press snooze on your dream.

It’s too important, and so are YOU.

Meet Christy Miller – Empowering Women One Photo at a Time

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“Life gets messy. My best advice is to do what women do every day—
Deal with the mess and move forward.”

 

Most of the events and content for Pink Mentor Network come from my own challenges or needs.  And oh, how I could use a new professional headshot!!!

I have no doubt Christy Miller is an angel on that journey.   I met Christy while organizing a women’s headshot refresh event.  Christy was the first photographer to respond with a definite “Yes, of course!  How can I help?”.

I’ve gotten to know Christy through our preparation for the event, and I learned that’s just the way she is.  She is a woman working hard to build the business of her dreams, and help as many women as possible along the way.

I touched base with her to learn about her career, her new studio, and doing work she loves.

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Christy, thank you for so generously sharing your story and your talents with us!  I know you are busy with your new studio so I very much appreciate your time.

Please share where you are now in your career.  What are you doing?

I am a Photographer and Co-Owner of Mnemosyne Studio, a contemporary portrait studio that offers legacy photos and keepsake products. I organize and photograph sessions with each client’s personalized style and offer our services to create luxury products such as our folio collections, wall art, and custom framing.

Each client has a consultation session where we help them style their wardrobe, educate them on our products, and gain the understanding of how they’d like their final images to be shot for their big day. Our photo shoots include hair and makeup, a fully pampered day, with a 4 hour photo shoot which leaves them feeling empowered, transformed, and we encourage them to take a night on the town afterwards because they will leave feeling and looking absolutely gorgeous!

Wow!  A day of pampering!!! What woman doesn’t need that?!?  I know you are super passionate about what you do.  Tell me where that passion comes from.

I absolutely love the career I am in. It allows me the freedom of expression and creativity that drives my soul. I also love being able to bring out the beauty of the everyday woman, transforming them in front of the camera, seeing their reaction to a side of them that may have been buried for a long time.

I whole-heartedly believe that we often don’t make enough time for ourselves, and want to show each individual what I see- a beautiful soul, capturing their personality on camera, and serving them with our beautiful keepsake items that THEY can give to their children and their children’s children.

Yes!  I am absolutely guilty of not making enough time for myself.  What a beautiful service you offer women.  How did your career start?

I started out as a photographer for a part-time position during the Christmas holiday season when I was 16 years old. It was very part-time, seasonal based work, but that sparked a passion for capturing people in photographs and making them smile. Ever since that point almost every position or job that I held dealt with photography in some form. After I worked for a year with Olan Mills, I realized that I wanted my own studio and I wanted to be my own boss and be in complete control of my own destiny.

I enrolled at UNCC, ended up getting two degrees in art, a BFA in photography and a BA in art history, and graduated cum laude of the graduating class in 2013. There is never a moment when I am behind my camera and I don’t feel that drive to push forward. That passion drives me every day to better myself as a businesswoman, a professional photographer, and studio owner.

Amazing, Christy!  That passion certainly comes through in your work and your studio.  Both are gorgeous!!!  What’s your advice to women ready to “leap into their dreams”?

Be open to change and opportunities. Learn to analyze and weigh the options before you make decisions. Hard work and determination will only get you so far if you are looking to advance your career. Often it takes a lot of your personal time, researching, networking, and breaking out of your comfort level to reach the next step. Breaking out of the fear of failure is hard, but the only way to keep going is to keep trying because failure only holds you back so long- until you succeed.

Don’t be afraid to fail, never be afraid to fail, because each failure is a learning experience.

So powerful, Christy.  And yet, so true.  Thank you for reminding us that failure is part of the process.   Any other parting words of inspiration for us?

Life gets messy. My best advice is to do what women do every day- deal with the mess and move forward. We are incredible women, each and every one of us. We can take the falls, the shortcomings, the insecurities, and rise above it- we do it every day for our families and loved ones! If something doesn’t get done we know how to handle it and how to fix it. We are truly amazing individuals.

And finally — if life is a book, what is this chapter called for you?

Making My Mother Proud

And what’s the title of your novel?

If You Could See What I See…

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Christy and her business partner, Ray, are opening their beautiful new studio to the women of Pink Mentor Network this month.  Join us Saturday, March 31st for a “Headshot Refresh Event.”  Register here.

For more information about Christy or Mnemosyne Studio, please visit www.christymiller-photography.com.

MARCH & BEYOND – PINK MENTOR NETWORK

I almost walked away from my dream.

Sure, the concept worked.  Our journeys DO move “HER” forward.  Women DO learn & grow from sharing their experiences in a non-threatening environment.

But what’s the point?  There are plenty of organizations for women. 

And it was a lot of work! 

Every “non-day job” moment was consumed by Pink Mentor Network.  I was driving my family and friends crazy with the non-stop verbal dreaming.

And the PINK!  IT WAS LITERALLY EVERYWHERE!—like a pink baby shower exploded in my life!!

PINK business cards EVERYWHERE — bathroom mirror, dash of my car, wallet, nightstand.  Pink pens, stationary, shirts, skirts, socks & shoes — so literally every step was PINK.  I planted PINK reminders everywhere so I never lost track of the dream.

[And just between us—I even bought fancy pink underwear. Just so on those hectic workdays, when the only escape was a moment of bathroom solitude, I was gently reminded of the dream. :)]

HINDSIGHT:  It was probably too much!  

I couldn’t help myself.  I was obsessed.

I had a dream.

But it just felt easier to walk away.

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What I didn’t realize in this period of fear, self-doubt, and exhaustion is:  YOU CAN’T WALK AWAY FROM A DREAM!!

Dreams live in our hearts & heads, and we physically can NOT walk away.

We can ignore them.  We can avoid them.  We can give up on them.  We can choose to not pursue them.  But you can’t actually walk away.

I know, I tried.

(But ultimately couldn’t because there was PINK reminders everywhere!)

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How about you?  What dream did you “walk away” from?

Take a deep look.  I bet it’s still there.

Keep Dreaming,
Stacy

This piece was featured in the Pink Mentor Network’s March 2018 newsletter.  The entire newsletter is available here.

Register Now: “The Year She Leapt!” — A Women’s Mentor Dinner

The Year She Leapt-EventbriteEvery day fearless women are taking giant leaps. These are three of those stories.  

Come, learn from three women who set out on a new path, and have accomplished tremendous success as a result.  

If you are thinking of leaping into a new career, new passion, new YOU, don’t miss this event!  

We are here to support, inspire, and encourage you.  


THIS IS YOUR YEAR.  THIS IS THE YEAR SHE LEAPT.

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Leading this discussion are three incredibly fearless women.

MEG SEITZ, Founder and Managing Creative Partner of toth shop

Meg Seitz is the Founder and Managing Creative Partner of toth shop, an agency with one goal: Elevate your brand’s content through powerful writing, creativity, and strategy.  As well, she serves as an Adjunct Professor with Queens University’s Vandiver Center for Career Development and Founding Partner of the educational platform and children’s book series, “Bea is for Business” designed to teach children ages 5-9 business principles. There are currently five books in the series. Seitz holds a Bachelor of Arts in English from Kenyon College and an MBA from Wake Forest University School of Business.

KEISHA A. RIVERS, Founder and Chief Outcome Facilitator of The KARS Group, LTD

Keisha A. Rivers is the founder and Chief Outcome Facilitator of The KARS Group, LTD, specializing in providing personal and professional strategic development services to small businesses, organizations and individuals. She is also the founder and Executive Director of The KARS Institute for Learning & Collaboration, a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization whose mission is to provide training, resources and support to new and emerging nonprofits.  She holds a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education from the University of Pennsylvania, and a Master’s degree in Curriculum & Instruction with a concentration in Leadership & Development from the University of New Orleans.A gifted speaker, facilitator and trainer, attendees at her events have remarked at her passion, professionalism, talent, creativity and ability to communicate that not only educates, but inspires action. It is this undeniable belief in what’s possible and the passion with which she communicates her belief that empowers her clients to find ways to make the possible more probable and the probable therefore doable.

BETSY IDILBI, Co-Founder and CEO of Tech Talent South

Before starting Tech Talent South, Betsy ran a physical product development company, Little Idea, which merged with product development giant, Enventys. Since starting TTS, Betsy has been named CIO of the Year by Charlotte Business Journal, a Leader Under 40, one of the 25 people to know in the Charlotte startup scene, named one of the 7 people to watch in Charlotte in 2016 by the Charlotte Observer, and honored by the Charlotte Business Journal as a 2016 Woman of the Year. Betsy holds a degree in Journalism from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

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WHAT YOU WILL LEARN:

This purpose of this Mentor Dinner is help women leap into their dreams.

Speakers will share:

  • Their own professional path and the stories & lessons from the journey that has achieved greatness
  • Their own personal take on “LEAPING INTO YOUR DREAM”.
  • Offer practical tips to help women build stamina, courage, and resiliency.

Each speaker will speak for 20 – 30 minutes, followed by a short Q&A with the audience. The evening ends with a speed round of mentorship for the audience to collect practical advice from fellow female professionals.

Registration includes a three-course meal at Cantina 1511.  

You bring the dreams.  We will serve dinner and inspiration. 

***As always, Pink Mentor Network events are open to current and future women in business.  Moms, bring your teenage daughters.  Open their eyes to new careers and the successful women who do that work.*** 

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Reminder: You Are More Than Your Resume.

Ever Get This Rejection Email?

“Thank you for your interest in our company.  As you can imagine, we received a large number of applications. I am sorry to inform you that you have not been selected for an interview for this position. Best wishes for a successful job search. Thank you, again, for your interest in our company.”

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Yep. Me too.  

(Actually, it’s cut & paste from my inbox! Not even an interview!)

And each time I get one, it is soul-crushing, gut-wrenching, anxiety-building, confidence-squashing. But then, I remind myself, “Girl, you are more than your resume!  Your DREAM JOB is still waiting for you.

Now, I’m reminding you.  GIRL, YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR RESUME YOUR DREAM JOB IS WAITING FOR YOU.

Our next event is for anyone who has gotten this rejection notice, anyone trying to land their DREAM JOB, anyone who is MORE THAN THEIR DAY JOB.   It’s tips on searching, resumes, and interviewing. It’s moral support. It’s a reminder that YOU ARE MORE THAN YOUR RESUME today, tomorrow, and every day.

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TheYearSheLeapt into a New Job

Join me for “THE YEAR SHE LEAPT INTO HER DREAM JOB.”  You bring your dreams.  I’ll bring breakfast.

REGISTER HERE:  https://leapersbreakfast0318.eventbrite.com